Setting priorities straight

Placing a priorities in life changes everything. It changes the view we give people, it categorizes our ethics, values and principles into different stages. Most importantly, it helps us take care what is most important; according to the life meaning wegive it.

                                               First place is your spouse

Your spouse is your other half. You are not complete without him or her. With this being said, “So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them. And God blessed them. Genesis 1:27-28 Couples are made to complete each other. They are each other’s  priorities.

Second place comes your children

Children came out of the female spouse with both male and female gender combined as one whole flesh. With this being said, “When a woman is giving birth, she has sorrow because her hour has come, but when she has delivered the baby, she no longer remembers the anguish, for joy that a human being has been born into the world. “( John 16:21)  Children must be every parent’s  priority; but only until they become adults.  Children grow and move out; they can’t be number one forever. 


Third place comes work

By taking care of the workplace, one takes care of the income;  bringing food and shelter to the home; wjich is extremely important. The problem is when couples make this their first priority and their GOD. This is the main reason why couples divorce along with adultery.

Fourth place comes ministry

The fourth priority is ministry; just as hobbies and entertainment.  ” Do your best to present yourself to God as one approved, a worker who has no need to be ashamed, rightly handling the word of truth”  2Timothy 2:15  Hobbies and entertainment can wait until the very last. It is only a way to stay productive. As far as ministries go; it is serving God, but it is more important to serve him in the spirit; which is done before loving your spouse or yourself. It doesn’t help if you serve in ministry when one is still fornicating or having fits with mom and dad. 

12 Responses

  1. Lisa says:

    Hi Linda,

    I liked your list of priorities but I didn’t see mentioned taking care of ourselves? I feel that we can not do any of the other things without taking care of ourselves (exercise, friends, extended family, relaxation, etc). It is hard to give to others when our own cup is empty (physically, mentally, and emotionally). 

    Where do you think we should fit in?  Or what is your thought on this? I look forward to your response.



  2. Charles says:

    I agree that it is good to have priorities in life. Like for example when I’m on the road or at the food store my priorities come into play. Let’s say for example I could cut someone off on the road to get to where I’m going sooner or I could just drive carefully and let someone go. Or let’s say I’m at the food store and I could rush and be mad at anyone who’s in my way or I could just kind of step back and take my time.

    So the way I am with priorities I would rather do the thing that is more kind in those situations. I always leave a comfortable margin when there is something I have to do like drive somewhere or food shop and that’s another thing that is a priority for me. Instead of trying to cram my schedule I tried to be a bit under scheduled and leave room for the unexpected.

    Another example of priorities in my life is like there are options to do different things. Like I could eat something kind of unhealthy or I can eat something healthy and I always choose to eat something healthy because my priority isn’t how the food tastes my priority is eating something healthy.

    Or like let’s say I could stay up late working or I could go get a full night’s sleep. My priority would be go get a full night’s sleep! That’s a hard one for me because I am a bit workaholic.

    I don’t have to think too hard about my priorities anymore. They just kind of come to me as I go about my day. Like if something comes up that is a decision then I’m pretty much able to think like what’s the best choice what’s the healthiest choice.

    Thanks so much for your article and very nice website I will definitely be back at some point in the future to read some more. Take care.

  3. Daniel says:

    Hello Linda, I must say that this article is very helpful and informative. I think that many people (including me) set priorities to care for anyone else except ourselves. I have 2 kids and it is alright that they are my priorities but sometimes it goes beyond than what it should be. You motivated me to think a little on myself, thank you for sharing.

  4. Jim says:

    Hi Linda. Yes, I totally agree. We need definitely need to set our priorities right. Often in our working lives we place our job before anything else, it comes before our family and before God, we become obsessed with making enough money. We should never forget our spiritual roots. God needs to be an important part of our lives, if we put him first he will help us through the tough times. Our spouse is the main reason we have our children, so I also agree the they should become before the children. In this modern world we tend to spoil our children rotten and forget we have a spouse. I really appreciate your article. Thank you.Jim

  5. SeunJeremiah says:

    Thanks for explaining in depth explanation on setting our priorities, as i’ll be able to make better and quicker decisions that guide your lifechoices. Our priorities are the areas of our lives that are meaningful and important to us, doing so will help to maintain a clear focus on reaching the most important goals first and taking the steps to ensure that you do.

  6. Jordan Smith says:

    Yes I can honestly say that I had fell victim of this couple of years ago. Not having my priorities in order and I did get overwhelmed because of that which led to extreme burn out. I appreciate content like this which help keeps me accountable and also helps keep me on track.

    Thanks for this awesome write up.

  7. DorcasW says:

    Hey Linda; Setting priority straight. Don’t you think you should put that spiritual contact with God first and foremost instead almost last of the list where you talked about Ministry? 

    It is important to know that the spouse is the next half in any couple. So there must be equality to complete the whole person as one is not his/her own they are two halves compatible to make a whole. so the children come first in the sense that both parents-one units are responsible for the children’s physical side of life, whatever that entails. 

    The work-place is important as loyalty is required to your earthly master, and food must be available in the home. Ministry is a must. Great post thanks much


  8. Ashley says:

    Hi Linda, thanks a lot for this post, it really made me realize how I should set my priorities. I know many women consider their children their priority, which is normal when they’re really young and need to be cared for. But once they grow up, their mothers still consider them their priority and sometimes neglect their husband and even their work. I think it’s essential to learn how we should set up our priorities in the right manner.

    • Ashley, This is so true. The issue is that children grow and create their own lives. What is the point of making them your priority if one does not even attend their own partner? I am right there with you girly.

  9. MazieD says:

    Setting priorities is very important as it gives structure and becomes a tool to successful living.  People, however,  do have different goals for setting priorities so they would want to list whatever is most important them.

    What could be considered my priority would not necessarily  be another person’s priority and therefore, i believe that setting priorities is considered to be individualistic.

  10. Heather says:

    HI, I love the fact that you pointed out the importance of ministry. A lot of people put their pleasures on the fourth spot and never care about the ministry and working for God, so I personally think this is an essential aspect. Also, I know many put their work on the first position, thus neglecting their family, relatives, passions and even the ministry. I will try to focus on the right order, so thanks for this great article, it was really helpful!

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