Meaning behind love

Meaning behind love

If you read my blogs, you’ll find one called Types of Love. Lovely to read as well. This blog however, talks about the meaning behind love. How does someone know when it’s true love? Interesting question; isn’t it? The scripture says,
” Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; 5 does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil;  does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; 7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. (1Corinthians 13:4-7) Let’s go over this verse, shall we?

• Love is patient-is your partner patient?
• love is kind-Is your partner kind?
• It does not envy-Is your partner jealous?
• it does not boast-Is your partner gloating about you?
• it is not proud-Is there pride in your relationship?
• It does not dishonor others-Does your partner disrespect you?
• it is not self-seeking-Are you seeking to be loved?
• it is not easily angered-Is there domestic violence?
• it keeps no record of wrongs-Is there resentment?
• Love does not delight in evil – Is there malicious within the relationship?
• but rejoices with the truth-Is there truth out in the open?
• It always protects-Do you feel protected or with fear?
• always trusts-Is trust unquestionable?
• always hopes-Are you looking forward to the next day?
• always perseveres-Are you thinking of giving up or fight for the relationship?

We don’t always fall in love. Sometimes we find something so satisfying that we believe it is love. It is so suitable that we don’t want to let go. Or we find something similar to what we want and when it goes south, we want those 24 hours back. However, what one usually believes was there; was never there to begin with. Go over each bullet and ask yourself those questions. Is it love or is it lust; or are you just settling with what you have? Is it a “find me to keep me” or is it a “I’m passing by”? What type of relationship do you truly want? What type of relationship are you trapped in? Be honest to yourself. There is no point in lying in the mirror.

“I once thought it was love. However, after analyzing each bullet, I came to realize that I have never experienced such precious thing. I came to see that love is a decision; not an emotion. You cannot be emotional about a person all the time. That is not love. You decide whom to love, whom to be with, whom to marry. It’s all about being wise in your decision. Don’t make the mistake many of us make. It’s not about a pretty doll face and some sweet words.”


13 Responses

  1. C says:

    Oh what a lovely article! Love is a big word and used in so many different contexts. I was watching one movie and the word love seemed to make me cringe a little. Perhaps it was too mushy. I don’t use the word love that much myself. In my family it was kind of customary to say “love you” when saying goodnight or goodbye, including on the phone. 

    Once i was in a relationship and I felt very moved to say “I love you”. The person said “I love you” in return. That was nice and felt okay. Maybe that will happen again someday. 

    Your article got me thinking a lot about the word love. I appreciate your insights on the subject. Thanks!

  2. RoDarrick says:

    Love is unconditional and not based on a benefit or anything. Even emotion is just a subsect of love and not a total entirity of love. Love is bigger then us and a decision we take is what will determine how and who we love. I agree with you on the bullets you have pointed out here. Great article from you.
    I really learnt a lot through this article and have seen another part to love. Thanks

  3. Peter says:

    The L word is used in so many ways in today’s world, not always the way it was originally intended. The way you have described love is almost like a check list. Though I am sure this isn’t your intention, they are a great guide should you be doubting your feelings. 

    Love is not necessarily visible. Though love does exist and I do believe it is a feeling. Like kicking your toe, you don’t feel the pain all the time. Love doesn’t have to be felt all the time to exist. Love is a feeling you get when that feeling is mutually shared.

  4. iToLing says:

    Thank you for sharing the bullet point notes from the bible verse… It makes it easier to process! Have been to the dark side of so called love. We do agree with you to a certain extent that true love is a decision. For us, it has never been much about looks as looks can fade. It is more about mutually agreed upon principles upon we live our life. Honesty, integrity, and more importantly… VALUE systems… ie. We are into personal development and devotion to attaining sadhana. We are into service to humanity. We are into sacred communion with child like awe. We are into music, dance, art, communication, expression, respect. We have our opposing qualities…ie. one is more extroverted than the other… one is more enthused about certain things than the other… but we are OPEN to being FLEXIBLE and OPEN to COMPROMISE… When it comes down to it.. without RESPECT, there is no relationship on any level… We will most likely enjoy reading your other blogs… short and sweet and timely!

  5. Charles says:

    Thank you so much for this content, I really find the tips interesting, I think that version of the scripture which you quoted has really explained everything about love, it is quite unfortunate that people often mistake emotion for love in our present world. I think love has more to offer more than affection or emotion hence I agree with your points.

  6. Sondra M says:

    Linda, thinking about 1Corinthians 13:4-7 reminds me of a sermon that I heard once that said to replace the word “Love” with Jesus name.   Jesus is patient.  Jesus is kind.  Jesus does not envy.  Jesus does not boast.  So on.      

    We can not change our partners.   The most we can do is ask and to pray.  Yet we can change our attitudes.     Maybe, when we are unhappy or dissatisfied, we should be asking, “Am I patient?  Am I kind?  Do I envy?  Do I boast?   So on.    

    Too many times, if we are honest with ourselves, the problem is us.   We make ourselves being unhappy because we the ones that are self seeking.  We are the ones that is keeping records of wrongs.  We are the ones being easily angered.  

    That said, I am not advocating that someone stay in a physically abusive relationship.   

  7. gr8megawinner says:

    Yes, love does not come from a pretty face, smooth flawless skin, and a beautiful body. It is not physical. The bible explained what is true love. If we do not have those definitions of love we would be empty. True love is enduring, abiding, unconditional and rejoices in others. The Love of God manifests to all those people with a heart of compassion, charity, love and happiness in giving. The purpose of life is to love one another and give away what we can give with cheer and generosity. It is a deep topic that keeps you deeper in the outlook of life. For life exists because of love. the opposite of love ends in destruction.

  8. grea8J says:

    Linda, that makes a very good read. Love is an amazing thing that different people have defined in so many different ways and this is because so many people could not identify true love. We tend to equate things like infatuation, lust, and emotions with true love. Thanks for shedding some light on this. I like to add that essentially true love is unconditional but this leads us to another question: “Does unconditional love truly exist?”

  9. Dane says:

    Hi Linda, I must commend the importance of this post in our everyday life. Love is a really huge thing to just conclude on just because you are having a smooth friendship with some, most times its just the feeling of attachment and not love itself. I love the questions you put up there. Now we all should access ourselves with these question and see if we are actually in love. Thanks for this really nice post.

  10. Jordan Smith says:

    What an extraordinary explanation of Love as its truth shall never and can never be forgotten…I am transformed “literally”, by this your ability to share so accordingly to my ability to comprehend. I am excited and will share this post with others. To be honest, I am grateful to have come across this piece while searching for a way to share with my son and his girlfriend, what it means to love. It is can be so difficult to show, teach, and sometimes explain to my now, grown son, what I owed to him as his father….what love is, what it looks like, and then the significance love has to his existence in life. As he shares his life struggles, it is the struggle of love that concerns me the most. and It certainly reveals to me that I missed the mark as his father yesterday but today by the grace of God, I have the opportunity to make some amendments. Thank you Linda!


  11. RoDarrick says:

    Hi Linda, you have talked about a very interesting post here. Love in this generation has turned to material based. There should be something in there for me before I got myself hooked up with anyone. Like you stated, true love should not be based on all these. It should be a feeling of mutuality and not anyhow feeling of attachment as a result of things valued from a person. Such rare insights you have offered here. Thanks.

    • RoDarrick.
      This is really unfortunately sad. Materialistic is not love. As simple as how parents buy tablets to keep children entertained. I don’t like it one bit; they remove communication from their lives. Not to mention, communication is one of the foundations of love.

  12. Hanna says:

    Love this post!  It is because it is about love:)

    I realized as you get older, the meaning of love for me changes.  For me, the greatest meaning of love is when you give appreciation or love to someone, you do not expect anything in return.  It is what you call unconditional love.  

    If the world has this kind of love, things around us will all be great! 

    Thank you for sharing this post!  All the best!

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