Lack of forgiveness-secret of life-people change people

Lack of forgiveness-better or worse

Lack of forgiveness is the foundation of many issues we encounter. Issues such as illnesses, migraines, unhealthy results of life, addictions, suicide attempts, domestic violence, unhealthy relationships or mood swings.

Forgiveness does not change the past but it changes the future.

The secret of life is: “People change people.” What would your life be like if you didn’t live the way you lived your day yesterday? Your history could change. So how about you start changing your own history by forgiving? Because once you forgive, your future is way different than what it could have been. We all have been hurt in our lives. Everyone has to forgive someone. Just ask yourself who you have to forgive. It’ll amaze you what you’ll discover. If for any reason you can’t recall anyone, it wouldn’t hurt if you prayed and asked the holy spirit to show you who, why and how.

The meaning behind forgiveness

  • give up resentment
  •  grant relief from payment of spiritual pain
  • cease to feel resentment against someone
  • be able to forget and move on without any resentment

What is keeping you from forgiving?

What usually keeps us from forgiveness is the action or process of not dying to the flesh; while one makes the decision of preferring to live with spiritual pain instead. So yes, if you haven’t forgiven someone, it just means you prefer to live with pain. I’m not saying the pain you’re carrying is not worth going through. What I’m saying is that the pain is not worth keeping.

The relief of forgiveness

  • Once one forgives, one is able to
  • Look at the individual directly in the eye
  • Smile at the individual without pain
  • Pray (wish) for the individual’s blessings
  • Speak to the individual as if nothing ever happened

11 Responses

  1. Rhain says:

    hello Linda,

    When a wrong is committed against us, it can be tempting to hold on to that feeling of resentment. But the truth is, when we hold on to something as dark as resentment, we hurt ourselves. Like you pointed out, a good number of the issues we experience are founded on our inability to express forgiveness. Now, I believe the benefits that comes with forgiveness are well worth it.

    Great post

  2. Hi Jessie says:

    I believe that the lack of forgiveness doesn’t hurt the one that caused the offense but hurts the one holding on to the unforgiveness. I also believe it can cause the body to show signs of distress health-wise. I think that not allowing one’s self to forgive can lead to unpleasant spirits being able to get a foot hold in one’s life.  I also believe that when one surrounds themselves with positivity that it draws more light into their life.

  3. Abagatan says:

    I agree with you on two counts

    1. These are psychosomatic illnesses: migraines, unhealthy results of life, addictions, suicide attempts, domestic violence, unhealthy relationships or mood swings. 

    These will result in other severe illnesses.

    2. Forgiveness will change the future or it will create a new future.  It is an amazing fact that what we do today paves a new history to our lives and to the community we live in. This is one of the non-traditional teachings ever taught by Jesus Christ saying, forgive your enemies.

    Thank you for this concept that is indeed a fact in life.

  4. Bonnie says:

    Very nice post. I used to hold grudges and not forgive. But I realized I was just hurting myself. If you don’t forgive, then you can’t let go. If you can’t let go, then it just keeps eating away at you. In order to live a happier peaceful life, you need to forgive. Thank you for this post, it’s a nice reminder to all of us that the world would be a happier place if we could just let go and forgive.

  5. Jack Stephens says:

    This is a very healing page to those who read it and respond. I especially appreciated the video. The sad thing is knowing that many who need to forgive someone else (or perhaps many others), will not heed the message and will go on being eaten up from within. Harboring hatred or unforgiveness has a built in punishment or consequence of unhappiness, bitterness and even physical illness. I hope everyone who reads this page will take the message to heart. Thanks for publishing it.

  6. Brian Perisho - Fireman Marketing says:

    Thanks for this great article about how lack of forgiveness can affect us in so many ways.  So, how would you recommend we encourage others to forgive someone who has wronged them.  Especially if the one who needs to forgive is not God-fearing?

    It can be very difficult to encourage others… Except by displaying the forgiveness attitude in all we do as witnesses.

    • Brian, I would probably tell them: Okay, so it is evident there is much pain and damage done. Now, what can be th solution to the damage? Forgiveness. If one doesn’t forgive, that individual is automatically deciding to live a wrathful life. It is not easy to place the past behind; however, in the end, it is all about taking a decision. Start a new chapter by looking forward into success and new opportunities. If this isn’t done, then the individual isn’t allowing those new opportunities to enter. Now the question is; will you be the one allowing new opportunities come into your life or will you be blocking your own?

  7. Katya says:

    Very to the point post on lack of forgiveness. Personally, I do have issues with it, I do get angry pretty quick and the resentment comes with it. I do calm down quick but it’s difficult to forgive as well. I try to understand why a person behave in a certain way, what drives them and then it’s easier to make its peace. Do you reckon the lack of forgiveness is stronger with stronger ego? 

    Thank you for such an interesting article,


  8. gr8megawinner says:

    The Lack of forgiveness – the secret of life- People change people, this blog has pointed out the futility of unforgiving heart. it destroys the griever and the unforgiving hert more that the subject of unforgiveness. It gives pain and diseases to the unforgiving heart. It is rather a curse for those who do not know how to forgive rather than the other way around. The general impact of unforgiving heart is living a life of vengeance and filled with no peace. You are right to spread this negative effect of unforgiving heart.  A forgiving heart sleeps well, has peace and a life filled with blessings and grace.

  9. coralie says:

    This was a very interesting post.  Forgiveness is such a tough thing to do.  I have gone through periods in my life, where I have not been able to forgive important people in my life.  I do agree that carrying that around takes it toll and that finding a way to forgive is the only way to do that.  Great job.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *