carrying-weight vs letting go
There are all type of people in this world. A negative influence does not precisely indicate the individual is bad. One does not receive an influence only by hanging out with the individual. One may also get the positive or negative influence by listening to them speak. There must be a balance in a friendship; unless one is carrying weight. They must edify you and you must edify them. They must cheer you on as you cheer them on. There must bring the best out of you; as you do the same. It can’t just be one-sided; otherwise, one starts letting go.
Main issue when one looses a close friend
A way a friendship or acquaintance can easily drag each other down through actions and influences. For instance, If person A is dragging person B down, person B may also become abusive of their friendship. There are also those who feel loved and place that admiration towards others high by giving and giving; that it totally annoys the individual. Annoys, suffocates and drags down the individual. This is when person B may become emotionally abusive. It can also be that they feel accepted, loved and not judged that they lean on the individual and what they don’t notice is that they weigh them down. The leaning is so heavy because they don’t want to loose the friendship; but by suffocating them is all they gain; therefore, one begins carrying weight. This usually happens when a person becomes clingy and wants to speak with one 7 days a week about the same issues. The issue also becomes when person B begins to pick up negative habits from person A; while person A is picking up positive influence from person B and both are not balancing out.
Allow friendships need to breathe. Wearing a tight underwear can cause a bad infection; you’re not letting your skin breathe. Same thing with a friendship. If you speak daily; it can suffocate and lead to a bad reaction. Friendships are here to counsel each other; yes. However, friends should also edify one another. Nothing good comes out of it if only issues are spoken of.
Will you set a limit to not feel overwhelmed?
Or do you not have enough on your own plate?