Balance it out
There are all type of people in this world. A negative influence does not mean they are bad people. One does not get a negative influence only by hanging out with the individual. One may also get the positive or negative influence just by listening to them speak. There must be a balance in a friendship. They must edify you and you must edify them. They must cheer you on as you cheer them on. There must bring the best out of you as you do the same. It can’t just be one-sided; that’s wrong. If you begin to see they have you up on an admiration star, and you don’t do the same; then it’s time to examine yourself. However, sometimes it doesn’t roll that way. This is option.
This is the way it usually works: If person A has person B up on an admiration star, but person B doesn’t return that perspective of person A; it is more likely that person A is dragging person B down as person B may also become abusive of their friendship. This usually happens when a person becomes clingy and wants to speak with you 7 days a week. The issue also becomes when person B begins to pick up negative habits from person A; while person A is picking up positive influence from person B. There is no balance.
Another way one can also drag someone else down by it not being stress or carrying issues is by admiration. There are those who are prideful and exalt themselves. They seek to be looked up on and there are those who are humble and don’t seek that at all. There are also those who feel loved and place that admiration star high by giving and giving that it totally annoys the individual. Annoys, suffocates and drags down the individual. It can also be that they feel accepted, loved and not judged that they lean on the individual and what they don’t notice is that they weigh them down. The leaning is so heavy because they don’t want to loose the friendship; but by suffocating them is all they gain.
Allow friendships to breathe. Wearing a tight underwear can cause a bad infection; you’re not letting your skin breathe. Same thing with a friendship. If you speak daily; it can suffocate and lead to a bad reaction.
Will you let people breathe or will you suffocate them?
Will you be suffocated or will you place limits?